What frightens you? What is it that paralyzes you into inaction? Remember when you felt invincible? I can. I was young and thought nothing could do me harm. Until that day…..
Pause here for a comment regarding fear: Like courage, there is a fine line between a healthy fear and complete stupidity.
Permit me offer examples:
- Healthy fear means you don’t walk into a pen full of alligators. Why? Because you will become lunch or at least a snack.
- Stupidity means that you, not only walk into a pen full of alligators, but will also hanging chickens from you in hopes of getting their attention.
- Healthy courage is when you heart the warning of a rattlesnake, photograph said snake, and move on leaving it undisturbed.
- Stupidity is when you hear the warning of a rattlesnake, photograph said snake, grab it by the tail, poke at it with a stick (or fingers or any other parts you want to poke at it), and then gasp in amazement when you are bitten right in the backside when you weren’t looking.
What I’m saying is this, when did we become SO very cautious that we stop living? I see people every day who are terrified to drive the speed limit or are scared to death take the slightest chance. If we were put here on this rock to hide and hope to live longer because we never attempt anything then what boring creatures we are. I contend that, for whatever reason, we all have a touch of stupidity in our blood stream and at some point in our lives we “wise up” and stop living.
Understand, I do not, in the least, support senseless acrobatic idiocy. I do, however, support that adventurous part of us that we seem to have locked away (or shot or perhaps banished). What’s the point of life without living?
Categories: Hmmmmm........, Koffee Klatch, Perspectives, Wanderer's Wonderings, Wandering Mind
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There’s nothing quite like a little putter through the thought canals on a Monday Morning (after several rejuvenating mugs of that naughty bean we call “coffee”). So before the faculties are too far into their sputtering, let’s saunter about with both oars in the water for a bit shall we?
Might consider donning the waders as the boat might sink mid-putter and we’ll have to make a swim for it. That is, unless you have the uncanny ability to tread atop the water, making you’re carrying me on your back truly imperative. But who’s afraid of a bit of moisture?
Be that as it may, here’s a thought that poked a hole in my dinghy this morning, There’s nothing like a good hole poking quote to stir the soup: “Death is more universal than life, everyone dies but not everyone lives.”
Pretty profound for a Monday, eh? But isn’t it true? Let’s face a harsh fact face on….we’re going to die. That’s inevitable. Living is optional. You can live until you die or you can merely wait to die. Living doesn’t mean always making everyone else around you happy. In fact, there are going to be times when it will seem that your living really pisses people off, because they just don’t get it. Living is about YOUR life. Invest it how you will (hopefully it will be healthy, ethical and legal), but you are the one who lives it.
Tah Dah!!! And here you thought I was going to get deep and philosophical.
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Don't Look So Stunned!
I made a new friend the other day. This friend is articulate, very funny, quick witted, bright and filled with stubborn determination. In short, this friend is someone I enjoy talking with.
Then came the comment I’ve heard many times before: “But if you really knew about me, you might not like me.”
Permit me to pose a few questions to think about:
- We’ve been enjoying our conversations thus far?
- And you think, for some reason, there’s something that will change that?
- Are you planning, plotting or conniving to make me disappear without a trace?
- If there are things about you that you don’t want me to know, why bring it up?
- Are you Jimmy Hoffa or Amelia Earhart in hiding?
- Are you in the Witness Protection Program? (Nope, don’t wanna know!)
- Did you drink half of my coffee when my head was turned?
- Are you going to ask me to turn my head and cough?
- Are you a Proctologist with cold hands, large fingers and huge class ring?
There are some things that are relevant and might cause a kink in our friendship. If you chose to kill me, for example, that would definitely put a damper on things. But we share more in common than one may think. Ask yourself:
- Are you breathing too?
- Do you have a pulse?
- Do you like cookies?
- Do you ingest fluids?
- Tired of these questions?
See? We have MUCH in common and that’s part of what makes a friendship. Friendship is like planting an acorn. Starts small and grows stronger if it is healthy. Occasionally you must battle nefarious squirrels and such, but for the most part friendships grow.
Enjoy the time together. And don’t look so stunned.
Having spent most of my life as a human…okay, ALL of my life as a human…I’ve learned a great many things. Some of them are actually pretty useful, while some are just, well….for lack of a better term “trivial” at best.
My point is this, one of the things I’ve learned from experience is that fear is one of two things: Motivating or Paralyzing. Fear, in and of itself, is not a bad thing. It keeps us from doing some pretty stupid things, such as:
- trying to shake hands with an angry bull
- attempting to take the hamburger from a bear’s mouth
- trying to get me to stop drinking coffee
Let’s face it, we aren’t the sharpest pins in the stack sometimes.
While fear motivates us not to do certain things, it can also motivate to actually do certain things. Fear motivates us to do things such as:
- move out of the way of an oncoming train
- look in the mirror when we step out of the shower
- come in out of a lightning storm
But let’s go one step further, fear can paralyze us. Fear can prevent us from trying new things. Fear can stop us from new experiences. Fear can:
- paralyze us from asking someone out for coffee
- paralyze us from reaching out to help a hurting friend
- paralyze us from speaking what we’re thinking
We fear making mistakes! The BIGGEST mistake is being afraid to make a mistake!